Have you been told age-old pieces of relationship advice that you would expect wouldn’t hold up to scientific evidence? For example, should couples really never go to bed angry, or does it actually do some good to let yourself cool off?
Here are a few that I’ve been told recently –
- “You’ll know Mr. Right the moment you see him.” – Um, no. This isn’t always the case. Based on the thousands of couples I’ve spoken with, about 50% of the time couples started out as friends and didn’t see each other in a romantic light at first.
- “The partner who gets the last word in during a fight is the winner.” – I hear this advice a lot. Usually from wives (sorry Ladies). When couples argue there really is no winner. A better strategy is to step back from the situation and try to see where both partners can compromise. And perhaps, yes, do let yourselves cool off.
- “Your true love will know exactly how to please you in the bedroom.” – Don’t I wish! Nope, sorry, just like every other relationship from a hook-up to a honeymoon, your partner will need a bit of guidance about how to push all your right buttons in the bedroom.
- “You can’t find love unless you love yourself” – OK, this one may be a bit true… The more you love yourself, the more you’ll take care of your appearances and self-esteem, which in return will make you more attractive to potential partners.
But you know what’s great about age-old advice? It usually came from a quiet conversation with your mother or grandmother, and for that reason it’s priceless.